The message of the death of colleagues painful stab the heart. How so? She’s not very old. Yes, the sick, but still – how unexpected. How insulting.
With a wave of bitterness and covered with a keen sense of regret – regret never expressed before the end of gratitude. I can tell that she gave me “start in life,” brought in medical translation. She recommended me to the event, where they worked luminaries medical translation, to which I now – seven miles away, and all the wood. She supported me on our first – and only – a joint translation. And suddenly she was gone. And I have so little to say, “Lena, thank you.”
“Ungrateful!”. How much contempt as the disturbance, even anger at times sounds in this reproach. And how often are we waiting for thanks, but it is not. Or thanks expect from us … And we even forget the house “thank you”.
But can there be “thank you” on duty? Why the most important part of human communication, which adorns and ennobles our lives, or is forgotten, or turns into a formality? Can I learn to give thanks? And How?
The Apostle exhorts us to “give thanks in all,” and the Fathers of the Church, and close to us preachers remind us that we have to thank God both for joy and for sorrow as for happiness, and for adversity. But with respect to the neighbors we have no right to forget about gratitude.
Are you swallowed tongue?
Encourage your children to express gratitude, parents often say: “And who’s to say thank you for you?”, “What are you, swallowed tongue? and thank you? “” And you “thank you” to say? “… In such formulations, reminders, it seems to me, lies the great danger. Look, this is not about to thank him, to make clear to man that you appreciate his gift, or his work, or a compliment, but merely the requirement to say the word, whose meaning may be, the child is still not fully understood (and certainly it does not know what the internal form of the word erect good wishes to “save (you) God”).
These appeals to “say thank you” funny episode reminiscent of the modern novel. The heroine, reflecting on his three year old daughter, says: “Well, there is progress, she has learned to say” please. ” At this time, the daughter of trying to take away from another child’s toy, with bursts into tears and screams “please!”. The main character completes his reasoning: “Just think, the problem is that she did not understand what it means to” please “.
Sometimes children, hearing the remark, or reminder, say “thank you” as an afterthought, if only from behind them. A home may not say thank you – not my mother, because she had prepared lunch or dad, for what to drop everything and helped to cope with homework. But the atmosphere in the family where all its members from time to time to thank each other, quite different than the one where forget about it! To the child does not get rid of adult duty “thank you”, we ourselves may be due to someone else, add “for help, for support, for a delicious lunch” and prompt the child: my mother tried so hard to prepare this cake you. She will be glad if you will thank … After all “thank you” in all its manifestations is intended to show that our labor is not in vain close.
One day my son close friend said to her, “Mom, that you’re always talking about all the” thank you very much, thank you very much “, but nothing special, these people did not. What are you going to talk to them when you really need to thank? “. A wise mother smiled and said: “It seems to you that they did not do anything special, but in fact all that they do – it’s great. And “thank you” will not lose value if I repeat it once again. People need to show that you appreciate their efforts, not even the greatest. ”
As a manifestation of ingratitude hurts hurts the soul and the manifestation of gratitude Celite, strengthens and delights. It would seem that a doctor or a teacher doing their job, why should they say ‘thank you’? But unless there is a scale on which the measured force embedded in the person of someone? Is it possible to “pereblagodarit”? Even the language tells us, is “the ingratitude nedolyublennosti, innuendo, maloradostnost”, but no “pereblagodarnosti, perelyublennosti, pereskazannosti”.
Maybe, in fact this is the meaning of human life – as much as possible to rejoice, give thanks, to love and to show it while the person is still listening. Thanks to the seller for the fact that smiling and doing his work was not easy. Thank walking ahead of that held the door. Thank child who gently laid on the table devices – for his help, for his contribution to family life. Thank the parents – for what they have done and are doing for us. And thanks to those who helped us so. And let our gratitude, facing even the departed will be another prayer for them.
Lena, thank you … On delay.