Here are a few examples:
Right now you are reading this article and are likely to stay away from something, what you do not want to think.
We always check the notifications of social networks, news and email, to do something difficult or unpleasant.
We have long do not pay taxes, do not respond to a long message, postpone cleaning because we do not want to do it.
One can cite thousands of such examples, when our brain seamlessly switches for us on something else, so as not to think about unpleasant. Check it out for yourself: stop for a moment and try to understand what thoughts you are avoiding. Or you notice any problem, or your brain to quickly switch to another subject.
This exercise is part of the adoption procedure which applies Leo Babauta. But first, let’s understand why, when we avoid problems, we only harm ourselves.
Understand that avoid useless difficulties
We are always subconsciously want to escape from the discomfort, pain and complications. And our brain has learned to do it, because so we forget about problems. But at the same time, we have a lifetime to escape from the complexities and distractions, not only to deal with the difficulties.
A This means that we allow fear and anxiety to control us. We are like a little child who does not want to work, and only wants to get a new toy.
As a result, we do not deal with important matters, or postpone them to the very last moment, and then work in a state of stress. The same fate befalls exercise, proper nutrition , finances, relationships and other aspects of our lives.
In the end, we still have to deal with these problems, but by the time they tend to grow to a universal scale.
According to the decision procedure, which was developed by Leo Babauta, better be fully aware of what you have a problem, not avoid them and decide. Having to do so, you will understand that these problems are not so terrible.
1. First, ask yourself: “What do I do now?”. Put a few reminders for the day, or leave yourself a note to do not forget that what you’re doing.
Answers can be quite unremarkable, for example: “I sit in with Facebook”, “open a new tab in the browser” or “EM”. The main thing – to accustom themselves to the awareness.
2. Then ask yourself this question: “What do I miss?”. When faced with something difficult or unpleasant, we will automatically switch to something else. We avoid these thoughts and affairs, without even noticing.
So try to understand what you are avoiding: it may be fear for a difficult task, unpleasant emotions, discomfort, or just stay in the present moment. Know what to avoid.
3. Take this feeling, whatever it may be. Think not about your attitude to it, and on the physical sensations. Most likely, you will notice that it is not such a terrible. Try to stay with this feeling for a while.
4. Proceed. When you took your problem and realized that it is not as scary as you thought at first, you can do as an adult, not as a child: you decide how to deal with this problem.
For example, if you are experiencing the fear of some thing, remind yourself that it will benefit you and others, it is more important than fear. If you are angry at someone, and because of this, avoid the difficult conversation, try to understand that anger and resentment – just emotions. So you will be easier to calmly discuss with the person of your problems and find some solution.
Of course, this method does not relieve you of all the problems. But it will help you to cope with discomfort and not to avoid it, as most do. You’ll be less prokrastinirovat and learn to live in the present moment. Naturally, this will not happen in one day. You will need some time to make this a habit.