today’s children Time is painted to the limit: kindergarten, educational clubs, sports clubs, then school, back section, mugs, tutors … A child torn between an abundance of tasks and obligation, loses not only wasted scarce time and force. Denying a child play and communicate with their peers, sacrificing his socialization in favor of increased efficiency, of course, impossible. And to refuse additional English tennis or really do not want, because we want our children to grow up diverse personalities.
So whether it is possible to organize a student schedule so that the child had time and learn and grow, and even had their own time? It is possible, says Doctor of Economic Sciences, an expert on time management Marianna Lukashenko , teaching children and their parents an author of children’s time management system.
Tip 1. Try with your child make a list of things you need to do for the day – this is the most simple and effective planning machinery. Apply this task in a playful way: ask your child to help you plan your day. Then enthusiastic (!) Tell us how great you were able to perform all the planned business thanks to his help. Agree that a few days you will be together to plan your time, and then share their experiences.
First, you can make a list of joint planning family holidays. Then ask the child to himself, he tried to make a list of his own works for the day and see what happened.
Let us not forget that while the child is governed by adults – both in school and outside it he dominated tough, that is time-bound objectives, planning of which the child is usually not affected. Realizing that trust him to organize his time, the child begins to feel responsible for their decisions, feels and behaves like an adult independent person.
Tip 2: For the little ones, who still goes to kindergarten or elementary school, instead of to-do lists, you can use pictures and images. Visual images are much better accepted by children, and the planning process will be much more fun.
Thus, in one large family daily confusion happened during morning assembly: kids could not keep in mind all the things you need to do, mother torn apart, all nervous and always late. All successfully resolved, when they got down to business, like real experts on time management: parents with children made up a list of all cases of morning, the children drew all his work on the small colored cards. Each child had their own color and its own figure of these cards: one red circles, the other – green hearts etc. Then these cards were placed in a tin box, which is opened every morning, the card is removed, and the children, guided by them, and was carried out very quickly without the hassle of morning routine.
Tip 3. Evening preparation for school is conveniently organized by a cork or magnetic whiteboard. Encourage your child to strengthen her multi-colored stickers with pictures. Each figure corresponds to the case that the child should do in the evening. Portfolio – collect textbooks and notebooks, shoes – take the form of physical culture, toothbrush – brush teeth, etc. As the deal is done, the child removes the sticker from the board. Thus, the mother is relieved of the need to constantly remind the child about his affairs, and the child alone is going to school and learning to plan their business.
Tip 4. Do our children, there are many tasks that need to be done regularly: exercise, homework, reading, helping parents at home, and more. There is a very simple and convenient table which can be drawn with colored markers on the board. On the left, row by row, to write the tasks on a daily basis must comply with all family members. Upstairs, on the columns – the date or day of the week.
For example, a child has to do exercises every day, and you – to cook dinner. In the column corresponding to today’s date, the child puts the “plus” that makes charging you – “plus” when the cook dinner. All clear and very motivating. Especially if you agree, that will eat a delicious cake (go to a movie, play a game, etc.), when along with it will type a certain amount plus sign.
An important result of this technique is to create a family culture of the organization of time taken by the family rules strictly and equally carried by all members of the family. In one family in this table do not include the youngest child, since he was not yet two years old. So he saw that everything around is something written on this board, too, tried to fit as he could – through tremendous zakoryuki course. Then it was included in the list, wrote in his daily tasks and exercises began celebrating its implementation. The kid was very happy – now he was in the team.
Tip 5. In drawing up the list of cases to be considered their priority. Teach your child to make a list of cases on the day of descending importance, that is first to record the most important things to do, and then less important. And do things on the list. Then in the evening the child is guaranteed there will be no significant outstanding matters.
This technique does not mean that the child favorite class will always be done on a residual basis, while they necessarily have to devote. But it allows you to avoid stressful situations, when late in the evening found that did not come to prepare for tests hands and eyes stick together, and effort on anything anymore.
By the way, the performance of important tasks routinely can prevent a child’s procrastination or delay. It is often connected with fear of not cope with the important matter, which is why a child postpones its implementation until the last and at the same time, of course, is going through. And, yes, and to cope with it more quickly when a child is planned enough time to perform an important task, after which it is waiting for an exciting vacation or a favorite hobby, he takes this task is much quieter.
Tip 6. Do you and the child may have different ideas about what the case is a top priority, so it is necessary to agree. They have the highest priority cases of life and human health. For example, to run for a cure for my grandmother when grandmother is not feeling well, more important than making lessons.
As you know, the ability to negotiate and to keep his word – the most important quality in business and in personal life. This needs to be taught from childhood, and time management here perfect assistant. To develop family arrangements should be based on family values – they have been, are and will be the ideological, moral and philosophical basis of family life. Therefore, it is necessary to comprehend the values and articulate when discussing with the child that is the most important for the whole family. It may be faith and love, friendship and cooperation, trust and sincerity. Of course, there may be other values. Based on the values, the child is much easier to find and set worthy goals, develop a harmonious, socially responsible person.
Tip 7. huge task seems daunting child. Therefore, he will find plenty of reasons to do it are not at all or pull to the last. Help your child to share large, complex task into several small, with whom it will be easy to handle. The time management is a big task called “elephant”, and in our children’s time management – “chocolate elephant”, which we divide into slices and eat one.
Slices should be very clear and specific. For example, when studying a foreign language can be a daily slice of 3-5 new foreign words that have to be learned.
It should be noted that the inability or unwillingness of the child to set goals is often due to lack of understanding, he should reach that goal. And detailed decomposition of goals, that is, splitting it into sub-goals until, until it becomes a simple and clear sequence of actions to achieve it, is able to give the baby forces and instill the necessary confidence in him. The best thing with the child to visualize the target, that is, draw it and its components. This technique is called Mind Mapping and works great when you need to “see” and to structure large and incomprehensible problem.
Tip 8. The child is and simple, but nasty things. Therefore, they, too, he lays. The time management such cases are called “frogs” and perform such a thing called “eat the frog.” A frog is eaten first. But difficult to convince the child that he needs to have fun, even a frog. To cope with simple but unpleasant chores help following trick.
Firstly, competition, drive. For example, a child’s room should be removed. Let will detect the time exactly 15 minutes. During this time, the speed he must remove all. Even better, if you argue with him, who used to take away my room for the last 15 minutes.
Secondly, think of the game. For example, it is necessary to wash the dishes. Let us imagine that he is an archaeologist and the sink are ancient vases, which are necessary to wash for a museum or find them secret writings. And thirdly, “must” for every case let the matter come up with “I want”. I washed the dishes – was a new level in a computer game. Just observe the rule: it is “want” must not exceed the time the matter “must”.
Tip 9. Remember that time management is not only to study and work, but also relax. At school, the child rest clearly regulated, unlike home. Meanwhile, the house is also necessary to observe the balance of study and leisure. There are even rules relaxation.
The first rule – to arrange short breaks for rest every 30-40 minutes sessions. The second rule – to alternate different activities. For example, on a computer is not necessary to have a rest after doing homework, playing on the computer. And the third rule – if you work in one place, to rest better in the other, if possible. Of course, ideally, better go for a walk, but if not, you can just in the kitchen to drink tea with cakes and a heart to heart talk.
Tip 10. How to teach a child to the time management? Just as we teach him to all the useful things – just a game. Do not forcing and not imposing. Do not laugh, if something did not work out quite well, and do not punish, if not work at all. Do not be angry, if they leave, it was not going to. On a personal example, on the agreements on the “handshake”. Even “in the dispute.”
Time management is a very unites the family, if it generates and perpetuates its own values of life. Then the plan is subject to any child’s activity goals, and they, in turn, focused on family values. And it helps the child to make a number of important actions that contribute to its growth and successful development. We all know the famous saying: “Sow an act – sow a habit, reap a habit – reap a character, sow character – reap a destiny!”.