What is your first association with the word “tango”? If you do not dance, it is likely that this pair dance under the label of “passion”: a man in a suit and hat, and a woman in high heels in a dress with a slit from which every now and then, as the blade shines naked leg. Red rose in the teeth completes the picture. The performances of Argentine tango in the theater scene in the cafe for tourists in Buenos Aires broadcast this way, acrobatics and paintings saturated with eroticism. But there is also another tango, invisible to the uninitiated, the tango, which we call the “social” and which dance fans and professionals in specially for this purpose organized parties, festivals and marathons. Social tango tango taught in schools and taught his people, often unrelated to what we see on stage. And that social tango – special world that can radically change your life.

Tango as a social dance up on the idea of improvisation together with the rich vocabulary of movements generated by the development of the tango as a subculture. Tango can therefore be likened to the language in which we learn to talk with another person, each separate conversation is unique. At any time, partners, improvising, decide what and how they will “talk” depending on the music, skills and desires. And as the tango lexicon is very diverse, and the “conversation” an incredible amount of options. Here, in the first place, it does not matter how the outside looks like a dance, but how you experience it yourself, music and partner.

In many tango come alone, often after a major change of life circumstances: break long relationship, move, start a professional life, children grow older. Sometimes in order to do something new, than had long wanted to do, sometimes for the sake of meeting with the opposite sex, social communication, dance and movement. Someone is because of the beautiful music, someone drags dance structure, someone very fact of improvisation together. The tango also come established couples looking for something to do together.
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The first thing that shatters when more detailed introduction to this dance, so this is the cheapest way of vulgar eroticism, described at the beginning. In its place gradually comes the understanding of tango as a dance of two different energies encountered in the music and joining the unpredictable and at the same time deeply harmonious interaction. In this regard, the present tango recalls good sex and good conversation heart to heart.

Man, was first observed milonga (tango party) is likely to surprise is the intimacy of what is happening on the dance floor, despite the dynamism of dance and dramatic music. Man and woman standing in a pair of tightly embrace and begin to move in unison, in harmony, but without ostentation. The main structural element is walking together in an embrace, with the man “is” moving forward in the line of dance, and a woman “should”, stepping back. But at the same time believe that a such a steep macho manages passive princess of the same is not true in a beautiful dress, like to believe that the classical ballerina – creating a delicate and tender, because portrays the ghost of the dead girl. Tango, like all dances, embodies a certain cultural perspective on what it means to be a man and a woman, and this view is driven by both the European and Latin American roots. Hence the image of the fashionably dressed, self-assured man-seducer and sensual way, but volatile, the femme fatale. But this is only the surface. In tango, like in any dance, the true meaning is hidden deeper.

Many dancers say that the tango for them much more than just a dance and tango lessons in any way change their lives. What happens exactly and what can be learned in addition to dance tango?

The first and perhaps most important – engage in close physical contact with another person, which may be sensual, heartfelt, music, intimate, but not sexual. It sounds paradoxical, given the erotic connotations of the tango. Such contacts greatly lacks modern man in an urban environment. Our environment does not give us almost no opportunity for a simple physical contact, is not burdened with ambiguity. Touching friends, we are very cautious, to colleagues not in danger, a loved one can currently missing in our lives, and with close relatives and children is not always simple. Meanwhile, an increasing number of studies that physical contact helps fight depression and anxiety, boosts the immune system, increases the “hormone of love”. The popularity of the tango and other dance pairs, in my opinion, is partly due to the fact that they make up a deficit of body contact and a lack of movement in modern man. Initially, like any pair dance, the tango has provided an opportunity for men and women meet and fall in love at a time when the genders communication was strictly regulated. But in spite of the sexual freedom in our time, paired dances continue to offer a living environment for communication, although the focus has shifted from love to the dance itself.

By setting a clear framework, Tango provides a safe space for bodily human contact in the broadest sense of the word. At the same time it invites you to go on contact with another person just the way you want it personally and with whom you want. Tango will require you to be yourself. If in your life you are used to hide behind the mask of a successful, self-confident person who does not know the weaknesses and doubts, the tango that does not work, though, because you’ll have to learn to dance from scratch and constantly deal with their own vulnerability. But the real intimacy with another human being is only possible when you have the courage to show who you really are and accept the authenticity of another, often a stranger to you man. It is this lack of protection and allows to create true intimacy. Social tango dance is essentially a reflection of human life as a series of encounters and relationships with others.

The second important point in the tango – learn to trust the flow and act spontaneously, fully living the present moment. Tango can be seen as a kind of motor practice mindfulness. To dance is turned and brought the pleasure, both partners need to enter in the “flow” and entirely present, constantly communicating with each other by means of dance movements. This experience is important in itself and does not depend on how good or bad you are dancing. Deeply conscious living the present moment always entails an inner transformation that leads you to yourself, your essence, your desires, goals and emotions, giving you a taste of what’s important to you in life and what is not, what you allow yourself, and that – is prohibited. Thus, tango becomes a mirror of the rest of your life and the question inevitably arises: Do I live in harmony with yourself, if my life brings me joy? If not, what can I change?

And finally, the third important aspect of personal development in the tango – this understanding through banal motor mechanisms that the true contact is possible only between mutually independent partners or tango terminology, when each of them is “in balance”, the have in every moment of dance is looking for its own fulcrum own axis and maximum comfort for your body, not using the other person. Catching the tango, very quickly come to the conclusion that the macho and the princess never with each other is not the station. Both partners must sensitively listen to the other and cooperate actively, as well as a macho does not know how to listen, and the princess does not know how to take the initiative, and the tango together they do not shine to happen now tango. Any relationship and the use of another person for their own purposes can never lead to this tango. Many existing pairs coming to the tango, was surprised to find, in their relations underlying mechanisms of addiction, resentment, avoidance of responsibility or of shifting the blame for the errors of another. This speaker pair is coming to light in the course of training, giving an opportunity to review and improve the closeness of the pair. Also, people often meet with his shadow, denied the party: the fear of real intimacy, emotional dependence on others, lack of confidence or trust in the world. It sounds scary, but personal growth is impossible without the awareness of existing psychological problems, and the Tango is able to provide opportunities for personal development, while remaining a hobby for fun and bringing a lot of joy.

Outside the dance may seem simple synchronous movement to the music or the prelude to an intimate relationship, but the inside is not that and not another. Dancing feel dedicated to the mystery that is impossible to convey in words. The more tango grabs you, the more you realize how much it is, in fact, metaphorically for any human contact, whether it’s love, sex, friendship, parenthood, or cooperation. This means that, having learned the true closeness of the universal, the primary level of bodily movements, we can then use this skill in other areas of life.

Cover photo : Marc Grémillon