The main purpose of the book “After three too late” – the propaganda of the early development of ideas. Masaru Ibuka, better known in the world as the founder of Sony Corporation, it wrote almost half a century ago. Therefore there is nothing surprising in the fact that most of the reviewers write reviews of the book in the spirit of “anything new for myself did not open.” However, the fact that this work is still reprinted in many languages almost every year, makes pay attention to it.

The main idea of the book are simple, and, opening them, the author is logical and consistent. By 3 years of development of the human brain cells is completed by 70-80 percent. Hence, it is desirable to begin to engage in child development from the very birth. At the same time under the early development of the author knows no forcible feeding of children with facts and figures, but rather that they have the opportunity to meet with the largest possible number of areas of science and art.

The author argues that the abilities and character of a person is not predestined from birth, and for the most part are formed in a certain period of his life. “No child is born a genius, and no one – a fool. It all depends on the degree of stimulation and brain development in the crucial years of a child’s life. These are the years from birth to the age of three … Every child, if given what you need and when you need to grow and clever with a strong character. ”

The author states quite categorically that despite the fact that thinking, creativity, a sense of developing and, after three years, they are using a base formed by that age. And if a solid foundation was not created in the first three years, to teach in the future, how to use it, it is useless. “It’s like trying to achieve good results in bad computer” – he writes.

Heredity and genes Ibuka removes a very small role in shaping the personality and abilities of the child: “In my opinion, in the child’s education and the environment play an important role development than heredity. It is thanks to the environment and life experience children are equal at birth, grow up with different abilities and character. ”

Ibuka – a supporter of co-sleeping and close physical contact between parents and baby. According to him, the more often a child taking the hand, the better for him. Also a huge role he assigns the atmosphere that prevails in the family. “It is not necessary to do something special to contribute to the early development of your child. The best thing to start – is to create a harmonious relationship between husband and wife and a pleasant psychological atmosphere of the house. ” Well, the basic recipe: “The best education for a child – it’s a mother’s love.”

Early development of the author – is not pichkane baby information and the desire to teach him to read and write early. Rather, it is the development of his ability to reason, to evaluate. The main method of education is not the author proposes targeted training of the child anything, and try to interest him in the subject. Particular attention Masaru Ibuka pays to create the necessary conditions, “for example, to a child have the desire to draw around him should be enough pencils and paper. It is useless to wait for the baby to have the desire to do anything, if the conditions for this have not been established. ”

In the book, a lot of controversial issues. Thus, the statement that “the child, brought up by a surly taciturn man, will always be in a bad mood, and brought up a careless person is negligent”, causes at least bewilderment. And the phrase “spank the child only until it is too small and can not take it as an insult,” is frightened at the Modern moms who are accustomed to Western liberal values, where corporal punishment is unacceptable in principle. The postulate that when raising a child is not recommended to use the services of nurses ( “should not subcontract education of the child to another person, especially while it is small”), also runs counter to the modern conditions of life, in which the professional realization in the vital system of values for many women take no less a place than a family.

The book is written in simple language, easy to read, and the facts that the author gives to prove his ideas are very evident. Of the minuses can be noted numerous repetitions of the same ideas and quite a lot of “water” in the text, even though the book is not large in volume. It may be noted also that in the process of reading does not leave the feeling that the author draws the ears examples and facts, and the postulation of deep conclusions on the basis of one or two examples does not add credibility to the author. As well as numerous references to an indefinite number of persons, “many adults”, “some psychologists’, etc. – To prove the loyalty of their ideas.

Nevertheless, given to an evening reading books are not hurt. In the end, to know the opinion is not a stupid man who talks about such important things as the education of children and the atmosphere within the family, is quite interesting.

After three too late?Commented Galia Nigmetzhanova, children, psychology, leading specialist of the Psychological Support Center “Contact” of the family:

Please note that “After three too late” was written half a century ago, and its idea is a polemical opposition to traditional education. Echoes of the traditional approach, however, we see today. However, decades and even centuries it was a major. It was believed that a small child, newborn, infant, toddler, who still does not talk, needs, above all, good care: nourishing food, adequate sleep, heat, dry clean clothes. And that is enough. Enough to survive. Infant mortality was high, and the survival of a small child was the main task of the surrounding adults.

Times have changed. Japanese author Masaru Ibuka well feel it. His views are made once a revolution in the minds of parents and still of
interest to many. He said the right thing: from the birth of the child, we are not dealing with a delicate germ requiring only care, but with personality. To help the individual realize all that you may need from birth, without delay. And for that there is a strong, implicit nature, the foundation – the human brain with great training opportunities. Unfortunately, many of the features of the human brain, we do not yet know, but what we know often do not use. That is the main message of the revolutionary book.

In developed countries, this view is accepted by all today. Few parents only nursed, caring for a child. Even before the birth of the baby adult build the concept of its future development. They know who they would like to grow. Parents read a lot, go to lectures and seminars. The controversy goes on another issue: how to understand the development of the child. If we understand it simply as a certain amount of acquired skills – this one position. Then, the more skills – the ability to skate and bike to understanding and speaking foreign languages – mastered a child, the more we, as parents, have invested in the child. We are done! And the sooner, the better.

If the child’s development, we define as the process of self-understanding in this life – who am I, why am I, what is this world, and I am in this world, I can more fully live your life – then this other position. In this approach, the development of man takes his life, from the first to the last day. It is not linear, not progressive, in this process there are breakthroughs, and there derogations have equal periods and there are crises. Tasks of parents towards the child is much more complicated. Do not just take the child to the section, circle, invite the teacher to buy the time necessary dice or cards. No! Maybe it is, but not only and not so much. The alignment of the deep, warm emotional relationship with the child with his first day. Then the choice of sections, clubs and much more happening in the fine-tuning to the needs, needs of the child, his unique interests.

What is it, my child? Gambling, shy, very sociable, anxious, inconsistent, obstinate. Agree, we see it in the child very early. What does he really want? How can I help him? Be it a mainstay in achieving difficult goals (it is not my purpose!) And does not intervene in the processes with which he can handle himself. How to distinguish between the situation where I have to get involved, and where intervention will slow down development of the child? This is the task of problems for parents in terms of their child’s development. I would be repelled by the second point of view.

A man for self-realization can be based on three most important personal qualities. 1) On a deep trust in the world, a sense that the world is good to live in him his life. 2) On the credibility, I am in the world I can do something myself, I can rely on. 3) At the beginning of its proactive: I put forward the idea to transform the relationship or the objective world and make it happen. These personality traits really laid in the first three years. If all goes well, it creates a very strong foundation of human life. We can not foresee everything that will happen to us, but these qualities will help us to survive. Therefore, perhaps, you should read this book, just to feel the important idea: the person was born, and he deserves to be immediately invested in its development, from the first day, will not delay.

A few words still on the acquisition of skills. Reading and expense – it is also the skills, even complex ones. Indeed, certain skills are much easier to be purchased at an early age. The brain is plastic, highly imitative abilities. Imitation, as human property, approximately 9 years helping to learn new things. The peak between the ages of 2 to 5 years. Therefore some things after three years to develop it has to do more complicated, longer. What was once assimilated under the scheme, “see, imitate, reproduce”, later in life requires voice instructions, relying on logic, expanded orientation and training, training, training.

As for the English, and the pool can be, it is not necessary to follow a given pattern? Do you know which language will be needed when your child grows up? It is possible that is not English, and Chinese. Or learning a foreign language after 20 years in general will cease to be an urgent task. For example, Apple Corporation or anyone else release a versatile portable translator, who will speak for us, and to translate any phrase. We can not know in advance what kind of world will live our children tomorrow. Another thing, if we solve the other problems. Learn to make an effort, for example. Or organize your time. Or, to overcome barriers. Or to control the body, coordination, agility. You’re early to attach to swimming or rollers are not for the sake of their ambitions, that follow this framework, do not require the child all at once. Very often, parents give their child in a section with the noble purpose of developing useful skills in life, and then start to expect it results: participate in a competition, ranked first and so on. But your original problem was not the case, right?

Again. It is necessary to build confidence to do skills, self-reliance, initiative, we talked about above. The rest will follow. Maybe not up to three years, but has a good chance to happen in life.

Let’s just look at who we were born. Children – as “aliens”, we must first get to know them. And delicately to create conditions for the development of the personal abilities of the individual, taking away from the field of child-parent interaction of our ambitious goals. We can not program a child’s life. We can easily observe that what interests him there, and at the same time to show its interest in anything. Live your life fully saturated. Our some development continues too. And to us at any of our age is not too late to learn new, and the child may be connected to this.

To summarize, I would say: yes, after three may be too late. But too late? Generate the most important, a truly life skills – confidence in the world and self-confidence, self-reliance and initiative. If these qualities are incorporated in the child in the first years of life, relying on them, all the rest of his plan, he will be able to realize himself.

Parents who are interested in children’s education, can participate in the events “parent club” with Galia Nigmetzhanovoy. Details of the sessions – the link .