Formula perfect relationship does not exist, however, several laws may be found in happy unions. This list will help you understand what you are doing wrong.
1. Do not complain about the relationships with family and friends
Sometimes there are problems in the relationship, but that is no reason to discuss their lovers with outsiders. Involving others in your personal life, you risk losing the trust of a partner. Is something bothering you? Discuss it with him. Nothing brings as joint overcoming difficulties.
2. Do not compare yourself with others
People who are happy in the relationship, accept themselves as they are. Compare yourself or partner with another person – a futile exercise, because the conclusions after such a comparison is always detached from reality. In addition, guaranteed feeling of insecurity and their relationships.
3. Do not blame the partner for their problems
Always remember that only you are responsible for your feelings and actions. No need to blame the lover in all his troubles, and then sink into self-pity. If you do not see a way out of a difficult situation, ask for help, rather than start a senseless scandal.
4. Do not take themselves too seriously
Life is full of ups and downs. And failure is not seen as a tragedy. Learn to enjoy life. Even when it’s not easy to look at the bright side of everything. Spend more time together and Learn to laugh at yourself.
5. Do not criticize
Believe me, no man on this planet do not like it when his sawing. Criticising his partner, you just create a rift in the relationship, which over time can really destroy them. Try not to criticize each other, but instead look less offensive ways to cope with annoying habits.
6. Do not ignore the financial side of the relationship
Problems with money can destroy even the strongest relationship, so decide all questions as quickly as possible. Discuss your financial goals and work together to make decisions about spending. If you think that financial issues – it’s too touchy subject to discuss it openly, think about what a headache it can be later if not solve everything right now.
7. Do not try to read the mind of your partner
In many respects – especially long – a person begins to think that he always knows what to his partner. However, no one can know this better than himself. The key to a happy relationship – communication. The more you trust each other, the better you understand the needs of the partner. But this does not mean that you have the right to make all the decisions for him.
8. Do not start talking at inappropriate times
Imagine the situation: you can not wait to share their experiences and feelings. Failure this time – when your spouse is busy doing something else or going to do it. If you come with their problems at this moment, it is likely that your partner does not understand the importance of the entire conversation. And you will have an unpleasant aftertaste. To be sure to start a conversation at the right time, just ask: “I need to talk to you now comfortable?”
9. Do not dwell on her role in the relationship
Each partner has multiple roles in the relationship. For example, based on gender stereotypes: a woman is preparing man is engaged in other work around the house. Happy couples do not obsess over this division, and are always ready to carry out any tasks outside their roles when needed. For example, in your relationship is preparing a woman, but today it is delayed at work. A man should not wait until she comes back, and will be covered on the table, he is able to cook dinner for myself and for her.
10. Do not set a negative
Do not put pressure on his partner: he does not always do what you want. Keep it. Motivate, so it was easier to achieve big goals . Whining and negativity will not make your best pair.
11. Do not follow the advice of romantic movies
And especially do not compare their lives with what is happening on the screen. Without a doubt, the Hollywood couple look great, but a happy relationship is not like a glossy picture. It is made-up images of relationships which have no analogues in the real life. Happy couples never build their lives on such misconceptions.
12. Do not hurry
Never go to a new level of relationship too quickly. Everyone wants to quickly get to the happy ending fairy tale, but believe me, the journey itself is much more interesting. To go to the registry office after a week of dating – is, of course, romantic, but in most cases such haste does not lead to a happy ending.
13. Do not expect that the relationship will solve all the problems at once
Of course, happy relationships add joy to your life, but do not expect that it will automatically solve all your problems. No one else will be able to instantly change your life for the better. All that you have to do yourself. Solve the problem, do not bring them into their relationship.
14. Do not expect to be a couple – it’s easy
Long-term relationship – that’s fine, but they are very few people easily. Think of problems as opportunities for growth and strengthen the relationship in your couple. To be together, you need to make an effort.
15. Do not doubt
You will not lose anything if you truly love another person. But you can lose a lot, if you hold back and not to invest in a relationship 100%. To feel happy next to another person, you need to learn to trust without further ado, and not be afraid that he might hurt you. Happy relationship – this is when you completely trust your partner, and he trusts you.
16. Do not keep secrets from partner
Stealth – is another common cause of fractures. Trust – something rather delicate and fragile, it is also very easy to lose. So do not keep secrets from your partner. Innuendo – the same thing as a lie. A lie never to anything good is not an argument.
17. Not afraid to admit who they are
There is nothing better than knowing that you are loved for what you are – it’s you. The relationship is no place for the request to change the other person. If you can not accept this as you are, you will not be happy.
18. Do not live in the past
Wake up, the past has already passed, and nothing has changed. Yes, your partner, too, was the past, and even if you do not like it, there’s nothing you can do about it. Accept this fact and move on. However, look to the future and did not rememberthat it was up to you.
19. Do not dwell on the shortcomings of partner
We all have them, but do not need to remind the other person of their existence every five minutes. Think about his good qualities and all the defects seem insignificant. When you are looking for in the people only the good, you find the good in yourself.
20. Do not expect anything in return
To maintain a happy relationship, you need to be able to give without asking anything in return. Do something special for your partner just so that he felt happy. When you seek to give, not take, you will feel happier.